The inner core: the secrets of self-confidence

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The origins of the problem.

Psychologists identify a number of reasons that cause self-doubt and lack of self-confidence. The most common ones include the following.

- Wrong suggestions and attitudes inherent in childhood. Remember how many times your parents told you: "You are too young to do this!" or "You are not old enough to make that decision." It is these attitudes that can cause self-doubt in adulthood. A child who is reminded every day that he is not capable of anything is unlikely to become a successful, confident person.

- Overprotective parents. Not letting the baby be independent, making decisions, making choices and not allowing him to perform even the simplest actions, parents risk undermining his faith in himself and his strength.

- Lack or lack of faith in a positive result. Constant negative assessments from loved ones also negatively affect self-confidence, causing a flow of negative emotions and unwillingness to do something in the future.

- Stresses and surprises. Living in a dynamically changing world, we are constantly exposed to stress. The inability to overcome them and relax inevitably leads to a decrease in self-confidence, because in a stressed state, a person perceives even minor troubles much more sharply.

- Lack of life goals. The ability to set goals and achieve them is a sign of a self-confident person. Just going with the flow, a person loses his taste for life, and therefore - and the motivation to do something. It also inevitably leads to a decrease in self-esteem.

How to believe in yourself?

It is impossible to be born self-confident, but everyone can increase self-confidence, independently grow that very inner core that will help to become more confident and overcome circumstances without problems. This requires:

- Stop blaming others for your failures and understand that they are the result of only your mistakes.

- Learn to live contrary to public opinion. It is especially important for insecure people to know what others think of them, but optimism and personal freedom are much more important than the approval of relatives, colleagues, neighbors.

- Find a way to compliment yourself. Again, don't wait for other people's approval. Make a list of what you do very well. Although your achievements may seem insignificant, not everyone can cook deliciously - even just one dish - or masterly ride a bicycle!

- Stop comparing yourself to others. The example of those who have achieved success should be a motivation for you, not a reason for envy or self-deprecation.

- Do not dwell on failures, learn to perceive them as something necessary to gain invaluable life experience.

- Stop avoiding situations that make you uncomfortable. For example, if you find it difficult to communicate with people, ask a stranger on the street what time it is. See for yourself how easy and simple it is.

Remember that the path to harmony with the world around you lies through harmony with yourself. Having gained confidence in yourself and your strengths, you can succeed in any endeavor!