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I propose to discuss the issue of improving personal efficiency. What is personal effectiveness? This includes the internal congruence of a person, ie its consistency, integrity.
Is a person congruent when he interacts with others, when he motivates himself to take this or that action?
Often, a person, finding himself in a critical situation, shows not his best qualities, such as anger, fear, fussiness, and then regrets for his behavior.
But sometimes a person in critical and not only situations shows himself from the best side . He learned to restrain himself, change his state, use effective strategies of behavior, etc. But is he congruent when he holds back his anger or when he is happy for other people's successes? In other words, is he congruent when he shows his best qualities?
The one who is completely eco-friendly and congruent in his behavior is a positive and whole person. The question arises - how can you become like that? An equally important question - why is this necessary and is it necessary at all?
Let's first consider the question of "how." You definitely cannot become a virtuous person with the help of discipline, from which an internal conflict arises more often than something useful. One part of the personality, in the pursuit of being good, suppresses another, which has its own positive intentions, but they are not necessarily good in relation to other people.
That is, it is useless to try not to be greedy, irritable, proud, cowardly, envious, etc. You can only be congruent and positive, not try not to show bad traits in your behavior.
A person is virtuous not because he wants to be him for the sake of any benefits, realized or not, but simply because he is such, this is his natural state of consciousness, this is his card, ie ideas about how the surrounding world works ...
Such a person, both alone with himself and in his thoughts, not only wishes good to others, but also works in this direction. When a person is sincere in his virtue, he does not notice it, he lives naturally and does not spend his energy on internal conflicts. Such a person is congruent, and therefore effective.
What are the opportunities here to achieve such personal effectiveness? The first way is reframing.
The first way is the standard six-step procedure, 6-step reframing. With the help of this technique, you can change unwanted behavior, and therefore your whole personality, releasing more and more internal energy with each step.
The second way is to change behavior by correcting beliefs. Here we proceed from the premise that there is a corresponding belief behind any behavior, and that, in turn, it has a positive intention.
What to do? Understand the belief behind the unwanted behavior and change it with Robert Dilts speech promotions or other technique. For example, I have a belief: "I feel depressed because some crooks (Vasya, Masha, etc.) have succeeded, but I have not."
Find a few of these beliefs and work them out. Thus, the feeling of envy will be replaced by another, more resourceful, but no less intense feeling, which will significantly increase the effectiveness of the individual.
You can also change your beliefs and behavior through awareness or changing the framework of perception. This is an attempt to look at some behavior and the beliefs behind it from the position of realizing the meaning of your whole life.
It can also be a view from the point of view of an authority figure (second position of perception), or you can find a positive intention behind this belief.
A great option is to realize that feelings such as anger, vanity, despair, fear, etc. not profitable. You can convince yourself of this by finding many examples in your own or someone else's experience, in books and films.
We can now return to the question: why should we become virtuous? That is, through reflection, come to the conclusion that it is better not to have internal conflicts, that it is better to be congruent, this makes life more full of energy, joy, happiness.
For such a global change in the map, we can recommend books by Ken Wilber, Jiddu Krishnamurti, Osho, Anthony Robbins. If a person can realize that it is effective to be positive and learns how to achieve this, he will have motivation, and after a while he will be able to become free .
Author: Andrey Petrov
Is a person congruent when he interacts with others, when he motivates himself to take this or that action?
Often, a person, finding himself in a critical situation, shows not his best qualities, such as anger, fear, fussiness, and then regrets for his behavior.
But sometimes a person in critical and not only situations shows himself from the best side . He learned to restrain himself, change his state, use effective strategies of behavior, etc. But is he congruent when he holds back his anger or when he is happy for other people's successes? In other words, is he congruent when he shows his best qualities?
The one who is completely eco-friendly and congruent in his behavior is a positive and whole person. The question arises - how can you become like that? An equally important question - why is this necessary and is it necessary at all?
Let's first consider the question of "how." You definitely cannot become a virtuous person with the help of discipline, from which an internal conflict arises more often than something useful. One part of the personality, in the pursuit of being good, suppresses another, which has its own positive intentions, but they are not necessarily good in relation to other people.
That is, it is useless to try not to be greedy, irritable, proud, cowardly, envious, etc. You can only be congruent and positive, not try not to show bad traits in your behavior.
A person is virtuous not because he wants to be him for the sake of any benefits, realized or not, but simply because he is such, this is his natural state of consciousness, this is his card, ie ideas about how the surrounding world works ...
Such a person, both alone with himself and in his thoughts, not only wishes good to others, but also works in this direction. When a person is sincere in his virtue, he does not notice it, he lives naturally and does not spend his energy on internal conflicts. Such a person is congruent, and therefore effective.
What are the opportunities here to achieve such personal effectiveness? The first way is reframing.
The first way is the standard six-step procedure, 6-step reframing. With the help of this technique, you can change unwanted behavior, and therefore your whole personality, releasing more and more internal energy with each step.
The second way is to change behavior by correcting beliefs. Here we proceed from the premise that there is a corresponding belief behind any behavior, and that, in turn, it has a positive intention.
What to do? Understand the belief behind the unwanted behavior and change it with Robert Dilts speech promotions or other technique. For example, I have a belief: "I feel depressed because some crooks (Vasya, Masha, etc.) have succeeded, but I have not."
Find a few of these beliefs and work them out. Thus, the feeling of envy will be replaced by another, more resourceful, but no less intense feeling, which will significantly increase the effectiveness of the individual.
You can also change your beliefs and behavior through awareness or changing the framework of perception. This is an attempt to look at some behavior and the beliefs behind it from the position of realizing the meaning of your whole life.
It can also be a view from the point of view of an authority figure (second position of perception), or you can find a positive intention behind this belief.
A great option is to realize that feelings such as anger, vanity, despair, fear, etc. not profitable. You can convince yourself of this by finding many examples in your own or someone else's experience, in books and films.
We can now return to the question: why should we become virtuous? That is, through reflection, come to the conclusion that it is better not to have internal conflicts, that it is better to be congruent, this makes life more full of energy, joy, happiness.
For such a global change in the map, we can recommend books by Ken Wilber, Jiddu Krishnamurti, Osho, Anthony Robbins. If a person can realize that it is effective to be positive and learns how to achieve this, he will have motivation, and after a while he will be able to become free .
Author: Andrey Petrov
